Feb 13th, 2008
Okay you’re cute, now what?
When I started searching on-line for my little brother I was excited and optimistic…
It’s not that there aren’t any choices, there seem to be many cute girls out there, single, open to new relationships…
Maybe I’m missing something? I find a nice girl, she’s interested and then what? What is next? She could be from Ohio? How are they supposed to have a date when she lives in Ohio? And it’s not like I can make little bro began an e-mail relationship. Especially when he is definitely not as keen on finding Mrs.Right as I am.
And then there is the dilema of all the girls that just aren’t my brother’s “type.” They keep sending him these flirts and messages and I’m the one that has to politely decline. It’s awkward folks! It makes me cling to Mr.Good just a little tighter and beg the heavens never take him away from me.
Personally, I would not want to have to resort to the Internet dating experience, it would scare the bologna out of me. There are just so many unknowns.
So, anyone have any successful stories of Internet hook-ups? How about horror stories?
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Hi!
Just stumbled in through Blogher and then read this. You’re so nice to be looking for someone for your brother. I have both horror stories from the net (one was married, one was bulemic, etc) and have made some good friends.
(I’m going to keep reading.)
My BIL met his wife online. He was in WA and she was in Canada. 6 months later they were married in the temple!
But I’ve had some bad experiences. Guys who seemed cool online, but when I met them they were dorks. BTW: I had a girl for your bro down in Oregon, but it turns out she’s hooked-up with someone since I last talked with her. Good luck to him! He’ll find her, if she doesn’t find him first!!!
I met my husband on match.com, my aunt and uncle met online, and their friend met his wife online, and my other aunt is dating a nice guy she met online. My husband lived down in Olympia and I was up in Shoreline, so we would have never met otherwise. And I cant imagine my life without him!
I agree with the previous poster- you meet a lot of people who sound great, but dont end up being a good fit. But if you keep at it, you’ll find the good ones. Hopefully your brother will find a great girl soon!
A couple at church met at on an lds singles site, and are now married with 2 kids. She only has bruises on the right side of her face now. JUST KIDDING!! (about the bruises.)
I know a few people who have met online… they seem to be pretty happy! Good luck in your search!!
My beloved brother met his awesome wife online. He was such a good sport–he would make goals to contact x number of potenitals each week. And finally when he found her, she lived just the next town over. He really believes she is THE ONE for him, and they both believe that she wouldn’t have been ready for their relationship if they had met any earlier. But you may be right–can YOU do it for him?
Off the top of my head I know of 4 couples that met online. Two are married (happily, as far as I know) and two are living together (also happily, as far as I know).
I think meeting online is just like meeting face to face - sometimes it works out, sometimes it doesn’t. Sometimes there’s chemistry, sometimes there’s not. Sometimes the person is honest, sometime’s they’re not. It’s just another avenue to meet people. The cool thing is that you have the potential to meet a whole lot more people than you would by going to a nightclub.
Iv’e know of a good one. Beau and I were in the wedding. He was from HB and she from NCarolina. He moved there after their wedding and they have a kid and are still married. If one of them are willing to travel then anythings possible, I guess. You might even know him…Rich Quinn?
(I am new to your blog. you can thank dym) After your opening statement I thought you were searching to find your brother. Now I understand you just need to find him a wife which is much harder.
I know 3 happily married couples who met online. One is my sister-in-law. Her husband is wonderful!
One word of advice if he does start dating girls met online. he should ask them to lunch instead of dinner. Lunch can be short or drawn out depending on the gal. Dinner has some time expectations attached and can be awkward if he drops her off at 7:30.
While I didn’t meet my husband online, we did start our relationship online. (He was in Seattle. I was in Utah. My boss in Utah was one of his mission companions and he swapped our e-mail addresses.)
And honey, it worked out just dandy!
I went out with a guy from the internet a couple times. He was nice, but had Crohn’s disease and although I said it didn’t matter, it did. One time when we were kissing he farted!!
Yuck!
E, I haven’t talked to you in a while. Congrats on your new addition-to-be. Funny that I should stumble upon this blog. I have met the man of my dreams. Never thought it was possible that God would have created a man so perfect for me in my life. Me…the hard-assed, bitter, men-are-all-the-same-dogs-are-the-only-things-worth-loving 31 year old biologist with an attitude, who really only was beginning to believe she would spend all of her love on her nephew from now until eternity, met someone. On eharmony. Unbelievable. I would pack up and leave and roam the world and have all of his babies in a new york minute. Not a joke. First Christian man I have ever dated. And he is totally and completely in love with me. It’s possible girl. Believe it. If it can happen to me, it can happen to your bro. Congrats again on your pg.
My boyfriend and I met online 9 (that’s NINE!!!) years ago. Like another commenter said - I don’t think it’s all that different from meeting in person. The cute co-worker could have a spouse - the nice person at church could have an STD - the person at the cash register of your favorite store may have a problem with alcohol - you just never know until you take a chance. Just make sure they meet in a public place - she could be a serial killer